“Your services are no longer required by the company”. Every economically viable individual desires to be gainfully employed and to remain productively employed till retirement. That is retirement either at the legal retirement age that is applicable in the economic country gainfully employed in or to become economically self employed. Unexpectedly, the time comes when the desire to be gainfully employed is stopped abruptly . So many have had to absorb the statement either giving verbally or written “your services are no longer required by the company”. This sometimes happens at the prime of gainful employment or close to legal retiring age. Irrespective of when this happens, it is always not an easy pill to swallow. It is even more devastating when one is ill prepared for it.
This write up is not about job loss because of certain misconduct. However, what would be discussed here can equally be applied should that be the case.
A job loss, as devastating as it maybe is only a job loss. “Losing a job is one of life’s most stressful experiences. It’s normal to feel angry, hurt, or depressed, grieve at all that you’ve lost, or feel anxious about what the future holds. Job loss and unemployment involves a lot of change all at once, which can rock your sense of purpose and self-esteem when a good job is not done at it”. The first job after a job loss is to assure self that your set skills, experience and, certification are not lost with a job loss. The consuming fear is that you may not be able to survive in the new dispensation of not having a monthly income yet your responsibilities did not stop to be your responsibilities and even multiplying. This is a healthy natural fear.
Loss of a job places you on a new kind of job. The job of managing a job loss. What you do or did not do is a determining factor of whether you can land another job or become even self employed. You have to apply the same rules as when you’re gainfully employed to managing a job loss. Doing a good job at managing a job loss helps you retain your self-esteem. A job loss does not necessarily make you loose your self-esteem it is doing a bad job at managing a job loss that takes your self esteem away.
A job loss is similar to suffering a prolonged illness. Just as one looks forward to getting well from a prolonged illness, similarly one looks forward to becoming gainfully employed again. That focus is a drive for doing a good job at managing a job loss. It is also like a prolonged illness because you cannot predict how long you might stay unemployed. However, you can manage your action and reaction after a job loss.
THE REASON FOR A JOB LOSS
As unexpected and stressful a job loss may be, there is always a reasons. Having a rational view of the reasons for a job loss is also an incentive for doing a job at managing a job loss. Let’s take a look at some of these:
This reason gets a lot of people experiencing loss of a job in quick succession increasing the number thrown back in the labor market. While a job loss is not good for anyone, there is the likelihood of drawing moral and emotional strength realizing that the same situation has affected many more individuals who were ones gainfully employed. Therefore, the hope is that when the economy improves, there are chances to be gainfully employed ones more.
A company may be experiencing a downward trend in their annual revenue over an extended period of time. This may warrant the company to reduce its overhead so as to meet up with the demand of its operating cost, and also be able to pay renumeration to few working staff. When it gets to this situation, management will have to make decision on which department may require the minutest or the most reduction of staff. The saddening phrase of “your services are no longer required by the company” may be giving to just anyone. It’s a case of if it was my company what will I do to keep my company afloat. With such a reasoning, it could be easy to start off the job of managing a job loss on a more rational note.
There are times the demand from the job may out weigh what our physical and emotional abilities can put up with. If management have switched your role, task and target in the best possible ways yet you are not able to meet up with the demand of the job then there is an obvious case of a job loss. So the thinking should be, am I personally convinced that my health condition does not allow me perform to the best of my ability? Would I keep someone employed who is seriously limited by a certain health condition? Taking time to think like this can reduce the amount of stress that is felt if this is the reason for a job loss.
There are obviously other rational reasons for experiencing a job loss. Whatever the reason may be, when not made out clearly in the mind it will have negative effect on the job at hand, managing the loss of a job.
THE JOB AFTER THE LOSS OF A JOB
Now you need to view your new job as important as the one you lost. While on the lost job, there were roles and rules, tasks and targets, awards and recognitions, and management of people. All of that hasn’t changed in the job of managing a job loss. Maintaining this form of psychology will inadvertently help in managing loss of a job as though there wasn’t a loss. Therefore, what is in managing loss of a job.
Let me share with you how I did a good job at managing loss of a job.
Let’s start from where loss of a job first impact the most and where so much can start to go wrong, our emotion. The way an unstable emotion impacts negatively on everything we feel and appreciate we are is worse than the negative impact abuse of alcohol and smoking substances impacts put together. Those who were not drunkards or smokers have become unstoppably so because of doing a bad job at managing loss of a job. In the worst scenario some have resort to committing suicide.
A bad job at managing loss of a job is the feeling that you need to drink it away or smoking it off. Most end up in a bar as an escape from the stack reality of a job loss. Some even end up in the hand of a free woman. This is self delusional and the start of an additional emotional anxiety. Better to keep focus on the job at hand.
What can help with emotional stability after the loss of a job? It will be helpful to put these as bullet points to enable clear identification:
- Absorb the information with understanding – Does the reason for loss of a job make sense even though it’s hurting? Although it is hurting, rationalizing the reason for loss of a job will impact positively on the extent of emotional grieve. This keeps you ready to move on other than shutting down within yourself. Do not allow your emotions get ahead of your situation. If it does, you’ll not be able to assess yourself correctly.
- Relish the skill and experience – If you think of it appreciatively, you’re obviously not losing a job the same person you were when you first got a job. You have developed skills and you have gained experience. Your inter-personal relationship is not what it use to be. Now that you’ve loss a job, why not take some moment to reminisce on the skills and experiences you’ve developed, the circumstances around which you developed them. This will most definitely relief fond memories of your relationship with your former colleagues and brighten your focus.
- Redefine your mission and vision statement – Something that works well also is keeping a healthy psychological perspective all the time. There are obviously moments you’ll be on your lonely mood but don’t stay in such mood for so long. Develop motivational phrase that can redirect your emotional energy. Look for it in a holy writing, look for it in a song, look for it in a motivational quote or speech.
This is a task and the target is to develop and maintain emotional stability throughout the duration of loss of a job.
Avoid the Blame it on Attitude
Once emotion get the better of anyone at the loss of a job, the first irrational approach will be to think of who may have been responsible or why was I picked amongst the rest of my colleagues. Insight on why a job loss can be of an immense help in avoiding a blame it on attitude. If it was some other colleague other than you, what words of encouragement would you like to offer? Would the same set of words yet be encouraging now that’s it’s you?
- Better equipped for a job loss – It may seem insane to perceive yourself better equipped for loss of a job than your other colleagues. Think of it, your colleagues are retained in the employ but you are the one going. Would you want them to switch place with you and why? You have to start thinking of making a success of job loss.
- Show yourself happy – This may appear to be another insane thing to do when grieving over loss of a job. Remember your colleagues will rally around to comfort and encourage you. You can also encourage them to do a good job at still gainfully employed. You can point out areas you’ll want them to care for with what they are earning. It just could be anyone else another time.
This a role you’ll have to take on and the rule is always keep a welcome outlook whenever you’re with your previous colleagues.
Avoid Self Punishment
Some who may not desire worrying over who was responsible for loss of a job may end up faulting themselves. The feeling will be that it’s because I fail to deliver on a task, I could not meet up with the target or my poor health condition has brought this on me. While management may at times look at these and more to determine who should be laid off, it does not necessarily appraise your performance for the number of years you’ve worked. You may have been given some form of recognition for an outstanding performance individually or as a team. Reflect on those moments of your working life as the essence of secular accomplishments and let it be your pride.
Harness your Spirituality
This is personalized because when it comes to spirituality, there are diverse perceptions of what spirituality actually is. However there is a common understanding of an attachment to a divine source above what you can accomplish on your own.
There is an innate desire in all of us to do something of a divine nature. Ones we can identify what that is and latch onto it, there is always a resounding feeling of satisfaction and inner joy. This kind of feeling heals damaged emotions and helps not to fall into disrepair.
This is not a task but an incentive to doing a good job at managing loss of a job. You can relate with incentives while you’re still gainfully employed.
Retain your Circle of Friends
It can be emotionally challenging to observe friends and colleagues having some success in their life’s while you are having a downward trend in your life. If you hold to such feelings for too long, you may start to perceive yourself as no longer in the class of your former friends and colleagues.
What can help in this regard? Develop a better disposition of yourself and your circumstance. So let’s look at what can truly help with the right perception and disposition:
- Stepping stone not huddle – Moving forward is not just about forging ahead on uninterrupted but it is keeping a moving forward frame of mind even when you have a momentary stop. When driving on a highway, you may have slow downs and stops but none of it stopped you from reaching your destination. Likewise, loss of a job is simply slow downs and stops to achieving success in life. Therefore, view loss of a job as a stepping stone to new frontiers and not as a huddle you cannot overcome.
- Head above water – Your friends and colleagues will like to see that you are not drowning or have not drowned in the sea of loss of a job. The social media has giving such a rebranded possibility. Share positive reflections of yourself but don’t give a better than factual impression of yourself. Doing so can give you emotional pain than the renewed strength you should have gotten from it. In the long run, your friends and colleagues will perceive you as a role model.
- Be yourself – Do not suffer self emotional defeat when in the midst of your friends and colleagues. If you are known to be humorous, allow all around you to still enjoy that part of you. Whatever it is that makes you like-able to others don’t deprive them of it because of loss of a job.
This is a role and the rule is your friends are your next opportunity.
Embrace New Opportunities
It is natural to desire picking up employment in the same industry you’re used to working. Spread your bread in many waters. A new type of employment opportunity will be an added job experience. At loss of a job, you’ll have so many business opportunities thrown at you. Majority recognize that at loss of a job you will have sufficient fund for investment. Some will come genuinely to help while some others will just want to have a piece of the apple pie.
Even if you do decide to invest, invest on something you have the passion for. If you allow someone else’s passion to drive your investment, you definitely have invested wrongly and that’s money down the drain.
Resolving not to waste the little resources you have will enable you take a meaningful look at whatever investment opportunities presented before you. When in doubt ask and ask again before agreeing to invest the only finance you are sure of.
This is a role and the rule is don’t down play any opportunity that comes your way.
Set Achievable Goals
Goals are luminous points of life. Settings goals makes you hopeful, gives something to live for. It may sound ridiculous to think of setting goals when there is no job. While still gainfully employed, not all your goals are centered around earning an income. In the job of managing a job loss, your goals should via away from monthly income since it’s no longer there.
Goals to set. One aspect that suffers earliest is immediate family relationship so it will be better to set a quick achievable goal in that direction and others will follow:
- Retain peace in the family – With no identifiable source of income, most who lost jobs relate like time bombs waiting to explode. If married, the wife suffers most of the accidental discharges or barrage of fits of anger. In other instance, it’s the woman that gets trigger ready to express her emotional grieve in fits of anger. Both party are going through the emotional pain of a job loss. The sooner both party recognizes that the better their marriage in a job loss situation. So as the one desiring to do a job at managing loss of a job, take the lead in retaining peace in the family.
- Re-bond with you wife – This is good for the married man. The years of leaving home very early and returning late at night is now behind you. If your wife owns a business of her own think of how you can contribute something meaningful to her business. You’ll have more time to cuddle on the bed instead of rushing out early to work. Some feels it will be challenging staying with a wife everyday but that’s not the case if both have a mutual understanding of what they are contending with, the loss of a job. So the only job on hand now is what both of you can build together.
- Keep family expenditure for just what is needed – No one can predict how long loss of a job would be. The only fund known is the one giving as payoff for job loss. Such fund should not be squandered for luxurious living. It is normal to desire the kind of life lived when gainfully employed but it’s time to deaden such desires.
- Plow back on previous investments – The longer the state of job loss the sooner you’ll need to make decisions on some investment to take care of your needs. One of such investment could be a life insurance policy. There may be mixed feelings between you and your spouse but you can reach an agreement of mutual understanding. Ensure that it’s with the intent of caring for an obvious need at the right time for it and not just for some uncontrolled desire to just catch in on some fun.
This is a task and the target is to set goals that will not put any financial strain on you.
Appraise and Reappraise your Situation
You may have counted hours, days, weeks, months and even years gone in a job loss. Have you done a good job at it? Are you still anxious about not having a monthly salary? Have you been able to set up something that keeps you occupied and possibly brings some income? Are you getting productive satisfaction from what you are practically able to do now? Some people find it rewarding to fall back on a certain hobby. That’s exactly what I did when I lost my job.
I love writing as a hobby so I decided to start up the blog g3manda.com. This has been rewarding to me in the long run.
While employed you must have been used to appraisals but the only difference is that you are appraising yourself. Honest appraisal from your boss must have meant so much to you. You also need to give yourself a honest appraisal even in managing loss of a job.
Address whatever may still be your concern in managing loss of a job. Maybe things are not just working out or your moods are not just adjusting to the real situation. It is not out of place to speak with someone who had successfully managed loss of a job.
This a role and the rule is add value to yourself.
Give Yourself a Plaque
How many plaques of long service awards did you get while working. Just the thought of this will definitely put a smile on your face. You just have to retain the feeling it gives when you had that long service award for as many times as you had it.
Why do you need a plaque and how do you give it? At times cash reward or a gift item comes along with a plaque of long service award. It’s the company’s way of thanking you for your years of service and contrition to the company’s productivity. So have you done a good job of managing loss of a job. If you have you owe yourself a plaque:
- Have kept your head above waters – You have to decide when to acknowledge it to yourself that you have not allowed loss of a job get the better of you. You may decide to get a little token for yourself as an acknowledgement of that fact. Something that reminds you of what you’ve achieved and propels you to achieve more while not having a job. I did this every time I achieved a goal I have set when I lost my job.
- Peace with everyone around you – This is very important as a grouchy disposition because of a loss Job can put everyone at arms length to you. If it rubs negatively on your family relationship, it’s even worse. So looking back if all your family members, friends and, acquaintances still see your presence a delight then you should give yourself a plaque. I’ll leave you to decide how you want to do that.
- Sustained opportunity – You are able to start off something new and you kept it going on and your passion for it is growing. You even brought on a paradigm shift on better ways to do what you never thought you’re able to do. That should impress so much on your ability and capacity. You deserve a plaque you should define by yourself.
This is an award and the recognition is that you have made a difference in managing a job loss.
When you do a good job at managing a job loss, you will feel you’re loosing another should you pick a job after a job loss. You’ll be better off also if you become self employed doing a good job of managing a job loss. Loss of a job does not necessarily make you loose your identity it is what you do or did not do that makes you loose your identity to.
Let’s do some knowledge sharing. How did you manage a job loss? Share what you did in the reply section below of the blog post.
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